Issues
Hello everyone, today I decided to come here and write about a specific topic I have been seeing, experiencing and feeling that I believe is really undervalued nowadays, or at least I feel people think they aknowledge it and know how to act, but they don’t.
Today I wanna talk about issues, and you will say: “Issues? What can you even tell me that I haven’t heard before?” And on one side, you will be definitely right, here and now I’m not gonna tell you anything you have not heard before from a friend, a family member or any kind of close person in your life. What I want to talk about, and really emphasize today is how people tend to unconsciously ignore and not pay attention to words because they have heard those before.
You see, every issue is a whole new story. I understand that, every issue has a life or multiple linked to it, its circumstances, its causes, its consequences… That’s why trying to group all of them, when you hear the same words about how to move on, how to forget, how to be yourself again… It definitely feels like people aren’t really aware of what’s going on, because in your mind they are just saying the same crap over and over again and not really saying anything specific of what’s happening. And… you know, I understand that feeling, because I felt it too, because I really felt they weren’t understanding how I was feeling, how I was suffering or stuck in a way I really felt I couldn’t move on no matter what I did… But with time, you understand you’re the one wrong.
“Why?” You would say, that is the first thing that definitely comes to your mind. Well, to explain it I will give a little more background of myself. I started socializing outside of my usual group of friends around… 8–9 years ago. I was really young, definitely not mature enough (even if I thought otherwise back then) and I made a lot of mistakes, I experienced a lot of things, people, actions… I understood how is some people, how are others, how certain issues should be addressed, how some things just… don’t work no matter how hard you try… But the most important thing, is that I understood and finally show myself but I’m nothing but perfect because, believe it or not, as I had no experience to prove otherwise, I had nothing to prove that I wasn’t. That I wasn’t better than the partner of someone I liked, that I wasn’t better than whatever person above me or looked up by other people. All of what I just said might seem unrelated with how I started talking, but soon you will see the connection. Accepting yourself as you are, with your flaws and your perks, with your imperfections and your perfections… is the first thing in order to not only understand yourself, but others too. The moment you understand that, you will see people’s words in a different way. Because they are not just people anymore, they went through their own issues, their own life, their own mistakes… And they are there for you, to help you, to support you, to be there for you.
And finally, going back to the initial topic, I want you to finally understand what I am about to say in a different way you usually would before. When you have an issue, when you are through a tough time, when something happened, when you messed up… It definitely feels horrible, it makes you want to get in bed and never get up again. It makes you feel like you’re worthless, or that world is completely against you… that’s when you need to listen to the people around you, because they do not talk without knowing, they had their own issues, went through misery, felt like you did. If there is someone that can understand how you feel, it is definitely them.
This is why I want you to understand that, when you’re feeling this way, when you are having a tough time… Look, what is done, is done. There is changing the past, there is no going back. The best thing to do is to keep going, to live your life. Take off some days, do what you enjoy, maybe go on a vacation somewhere… Whatever you need in order to understand and value what you got, that your life is the most precious thing you will ever have no matter what, and that by going through this, getting stronger under difficult circumstances… you will not only grow and help yourself, but also you will be able to guide and help others in the future, and that, is just priceless.
